Monday, May 14, 2012

We Are "That Family"

Our party for Mother's Day brunch consisted of three adults, two tweens, a very active toddler, and a baby. There was a naturally a lot of movement at our table as we shuffled around to accommodate the various needs and preferences of the young ones. On my way back from one of my trips to the buffet table, I heard an older gentleman at the table next to us say, with what I choose to interpret as a hint of good-natured amusement in his voice, "That family is out of control. They are all over the place."

I smiled. He didn't know the half of it. I wonder what he would have said if he could have seen Erica and me in the Ladies Room a few moments earlier, changing the baby on a sliver of a counter, in fits of laughter as we kept accidentally setting off the automatic hand dryer above the babe.

The most significant thing about our decision to spend Mother's Day together, as an adoptive mother and original mother, was how ordinary it was. My husband's mother unfortunately is no longer living, and my own two mothers, and even my ex-but-still-dear mother-in-law, live in distant states. Erica and I have both mentioned recently how much we have become each other's family. When my husband and I started talking about what to do on Mother's Day this year, it was natural that we would think to include Erica in our plans.

So I smiled at the man's comment, not only because of his characterization of us, but because he got the essential part right: we are "that family." 


  1. How sweet! What a fun thing to do.

  2. Happy Mother's Day to you and Erica. I think the happiest families are "all over the place"!

  3. ericaljohnson1980May 15, 2012 at 9:54 PM

    I Love being "That Family" still laughing about the bathroom, too bad Ashley didn't video tape us! The best part about that was she didn't bat an eye at the situation, she walked in to us in hysterical laughter, with wipies flying everywhere, like it was an everyday event! Priceless!

  4. That's lovely, Rebecca, it sounds a great mother's day. I love family get-togethers even though they're a feat of organisation in our family these days with my eldest sister living permanently in America, one of my younger sisters living in Switzerland for a couple of years and my other sister and I living in England and Wales with me being closest to my mum at a 90 minute distance! Then you throw in my half sister (lives in Australia) and half brother (he's not far away!) and all the sister and brother-in-laws and yeah, it's tricky! Great though.

  5. neversaidgoodbyeMay 16, 2012 at 3:00 PM

    I am just so glad to read this! I have been continually sharing your blog recently. With adoptees, adoptive moms and original mothers as well. Thank you for being so open and honest.

  6. I am secretly hoping that will be our family one day!