Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Quoting Myself

Bear in mind that parenting adoptive children is very different from parenting biological children, and this is true whether one adopts an infant or an older child. It's not about love. You can love an adopted child just as much as biological child. But adopted children require additional support as they heal from separation and mourn the loss of the original family. Adopted children have unique challenges in terms of forming identity as they process what it means to be a member of more than one family. I believe that it's important for anyone who is considering adoption to understand that they are not bringing a single child into their life -- they are bringing an entire family. That's just a fact. If you adopt, the original family will always be a part of your life, whether you have an open relationship or not (and I hope you will!) because they are a part of your child. -- Rebecca Hawkes at Lost Daughters 
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  1. Love, Love, LOVE! And with your permission, may I link it to my blog?
    ~ Jill, Adoption Ain't for Sissies

  2. Thanks, Jill! And yes, absolutely - permission granted. :-)

  3. Rebecca,

    This is perfectly said, and so concise. Thank you for always speaking out for adoptees. My favorite quote "...heal from separation and mourn the loss of the original family. "

    That's something I struggled with so much during my teen years. It would have helped if more people knew the pain I was always going through.

    As always, more great content from you.
    Elaine Pinkerton.

  4. So well said. And the image is perfect -- all points intersecting for the child.